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Do you naturally asking for what you need? If not, is it because you don’t know how? Or could it be because you haven’t truly found what you really want to ask for yet?
What do you really want?
It’s a question most of us think we know the answer to, but when we’re asking, we go blank.
Caroline Myss asserts that the response, “I don’t know” is really only another way of saying, “I’m too afraid of how the truth might change my life to answer that question.” Now there’s something to think about for a while.
How often do you hear yourself saying, “I don’t know.” Is it a way of buying yourself a little time to think, then you follow it up with what’s really true for you. Or is it a subtle way to end that conversation and change subjects?
What if you were to ask yourself in a different way? Try this: What am I avoiding knowing I really want right now?
If you don’t know what you want, you can’t ask for it. And if you’re not asking for it, you’ll never receive it. Is it possible that it will change your life? Maybe. That depends on you and what you really want. Would it be so bad though if it did?
Imagine: a life filled with the things you really want and that make you feel good, instead of a bunch of things that drain you. Yep. That’s something to avoid alright!!
So what are you waiting for?
What do you really want?
Are you setting intentions, or setting goals? Set both! Aligning our intentions with our goals creates results with joy.
It’s always amazes me how cleaning my space has such a positive and profound influence on me mentally and emotionally. I can think again! 
I was always a quiet child. Asking for something I wanted did not come easy. I was shy, introverted, and naturally reserved. In high school I decided to begin “coming out of my shell” a bit. I was tired of being alone. Through college and into my first career, it remained a challenge to meet new people, but those I did connect with typically became close friends.
It wasn’t until I wanted to start my own business, and needed to learn how to network with other professionals that I really began to develop the confidence I needed. And yet, I still couldn’t ask.
Every sales training I went to, every marketing seminar I took pages of notes at, every networking educational event I attended each in its own way has said the same thing: at some point, you have to ask for it.
After 5 years, I think it’s sinking in. The concept made sense, but the practice of it is finally beginning to take shape in my life. What I’m recognizing is that, all this time it wasn’t the skills I lacked, but the passion and enthusiasm for what I wanted.
I didn’t ask, because I didn’t really want to receive what I was supposed to be asking for.
Finding my passion in life has developed in me a natural propsensity to ask for that next step. I’m not always perfect. I often stumble all over myself! And usually my heart is racing from the nerves. Yet, I can’t stop myself either.
I love what I do. I WANT to make a huge difference in the world. I WANT to find a way to empower others and myself. I WANT everyone to know that they already have everything they need within themselves to succeed. I WANT every opportunity I can get to help someone reconnect with themselves and share their own voices with the world. It’s the first time in my life where I can honestly say, “Yes! I want more of this!” each time I succeed at even the smallest steps.
Do you naturally asking for what you need? If not, is it because you don’t know how? Or could it be because you haven’t truly found what you really want to ask for yet?
If you could, what would you ask for?
Looking forward to my workshop, “Reclaim Your Self” tomorrow and putting the finishing touches on my new series by the same title!
I love seeing great things happen in the world and wanted to share what a difference the BNI-Misner Charitable Foundation is making.
Grace Miller Elementary recently received a Givers Gain® Grant from the BNI-Misner Charitable Foundation for the third grade class to support vocabulary development. In third grade, students transition from simple sentences to writing paragraphs and are expected to be able to write several paragraphs on a topic by the end of the school year. During this process, they begin to learn a variety of language and word usage. In order to develop this skill, students need to increase their vocabulary and the current Language Arts program is not sufficient.
Bonnie Crum, third grade teacher at Grace Miller Elementary, learned about the Steck- Vaughn program through other teachers who’ve used the program successfully. The program presents the vocabulary in a fun way that helps children learn new words to use in their everyday language and writing so they can actually internalize it. They begin using higher level words in their verbal language as well as their written language. “Teachers can’t help but share their excitement when their students begin growing academically in this way!” says Crum.
Funds will go toward the purchase of the Steck-Vaughn program for 20 students as an essential tool to their vocabulary expansion.
Want to make a difference in the lives of children? Learn more about the Foundation and how you can help here.
Coaching with Compass tonight was fabulous – community, synergy and opportunities to be even better. I’m grateful to have the opportunity.
I am convinced there is a link between our creativity and our deeper knowledge of who we are, though I haven’t entirely figured it out yet.
I know that everyone is creative. It is not just the painters, authors and dancers among us. Nor is it an energy reserved for children that only the lucky few are able to retain as they get older.
Creativity isn’t even always about creating something either. Often it is as simple as looking at a problem in a way no one else has yet to find a solution no one else has discovered yet. The creative energy flows through us in the form of dreams, day dreams, curiosity, wishful thinking and longings.
It is only when we honor it by taking action that things begin to take form. Often, the first steps seem random – like taking a walk, or reading that book that just caught your eye despite not having really been looking for something along those lines, or picking up the phone to call the person you just thought of. But as it progresses and is honored more, the connections become more obvious and begin to take shape on their own.
A mentee I’m working with called me early one morning. He had a fun perspective, “I think writing a book is nothing more than a series of small, but significant break throughs!” he said. The joy in his voice was apparent as he shared with me how much it meant to him to not only be sharing his perspective, but to be uncovering so much about himself along the way.
I smiled. The hidden side of writing a book – or doing anything for the first time – necessitates discovering WHY you haven’t done it before and learning how to move beyond those barriers, and into a whole new territory of what’s possible within yourself.
Find one project you haven’t finished yet, but won’t leave you alone, and finish it. Not only will the satisfaction be rewarding, but you’ll learn something about yourself that will make you stronger – and that no one will ever be able to take away from you.
Be your own best self today, you deserve it!
Words are the voice of the heart. What is yours telling you today?
Thank you to Nancy Grant, one of the fabulous Compass Coaches, for sharing this video! Sit back, get a cup of tea, and enjoy. Although about 15 minutes in length, it’s well worth it.
Click here.
